I realised today that you don’t live in the same world as the rest of us. And why should you?
Yours are so much better.
It does me good to let go of my own adulthood, of the chains of washing up and preparing meals and sweeping up dust and driving from here to there and back again. It does me good to give in to you completely.
Sometimes I view being with you as a chore. Sometimes I think, how much easier it would be to get things done alone, without a little voice chattering at my side. But that’s the adult me. That’s the tired Mum me. That’s the 39-year-old woman who wonders when she will ever stop feeling tired. That’s the woman who has been up since half five this morning and craves the odd snatched five minutes of coffee drinking and Facebook scrolling in the kitchen, out of sight…
But I need to shrug her off. I need to push her away and free myself from those weighted thoughts of shopping, and finances, and to-do lists and never enough time in the world. I need to be in the moment, in the here and the now, existing purely with you. I need to be more like you and enter your magnificent worlds more often.
Days like today remind me. Days when I give in purely and completely to you. Days when I become as you are and see the world as you do. Because you don’t just live in this world because this world, do you? You live in so many others, and there is no strain or drudgery in any of yours. One moment you are a ‘little puppy’. The next you are a burger flipping character named ‘Cooker.’ We never know who or what you will be next. My mind is fascinated by yours. What goes on in there? You are so tiny yet stuffed tight with so many stories!
Today you wanted to use bricks to make car-parks for your cars. You say ‘please, you be this one. Please, you build more par-parks.’ And I’m thinking, with a sigh, but we’ve got to take the dogs out, because we’ve already been to toddler group and had lunch, and it’s not fair to make them wait any longer. You don’t want to go, but I tempt you with a biscuit and in seconds you have your coat and shoes on and we are off.
When we get there, you want to choose the ways. You want to go the ways I don’t want to go. I slip into the usual habits. Grumbling, muttering under my breath, pulling at the dogs, snapping at them to behave, and you just want to climb on the big boulders and jump in the puddles. You want to show me a tree and ask why it has a knobbly bit on it, and it’s there and then that I swallow the exasperation and the impatience and just give in. I feel the fight and the stress seep right out of me.
Because I realise that it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if you choose ways that I wouldn’t or if you want to climb on rocks and through brambles. It doesn’t matter if the walk takes longer than I intended. None of it matters!
So I let you take charge. And you show me your world.
‘Don’t step on the black bits! They suck you under!’
‘This is my house. This is my fire.’
‘This is my hitting stick.’
‘This is my party.’
At this point, my heart melts entirely. Since you could string the words together, you have referred to a cluster of tree stumps as a ‘party.’ I have no idea where this comes from, but the sight of tree stumps makes you think of parties. So you show me your party, and jump from the tree stumps, then you say we have to go because everything is on fire.
We run to the next one, further up the hill. A few weeks ago this place was a haze of purple, the heather in full bloom. Now everything is turning orange and brown. Leaves are falling and the earth is dark and wet. One of the dogs runs off and you yell;
‘That’s my dog! Where my dog going?’
So we chase after her and find another party. You make another fire. You show me your bed on the lime green moss of the forest floor. You are totally and utterly inside this world. You slip between worlds so effortlessly, so naturally. You tell me to watch out for the tripping up steps (tree roots) and we abandon the party to march further up the hill.
I let you choose the way, and we go left, out across the flat of the hill, walking along narrow flattened paths between burnt orange heather and ferns.
‘Don’t walk on that path! Walk on this one!’
‘That one a river!’
‘That boat with tiny people on it.’
‘That tree is my house.’
‘Here you have to do a dance like this…’
‘Here, you have to do a funny walk like this.’
‘I’m the Doctor. I’m Doctor Dad. You’re Amy.’
And just like that, you create another world and invite me inside with you. You’ve got the Tardis key around your neck and your sonic screwdriver in your hand. You stomp your tiny way through ferns taller than you are. You crouch down to bypass needle sharp gorse and tell me we have to find the Tardis because the aliens are coming.
We circle around and down the hill. You pretend to die by going all stiff and then tell me you are another Doctor.
Which one? A girl or a boy?
‘A boy Doctor.’
Are you old or young?
‘I’m an old man Doctor. But if I get hurt, I be another Doctor.’
We walk on, and you never stop talking, never stop imagining. There is no such thing to you as just a tree, or just a fir-cone, or just a stick. Everything has infinite possibilities. Everything becomes a story.
We walk home, we make it back to the Tardis and your key lets us in, and then you see your bricks and cars, and instantly you are back in that game. A small part of me longs a coffee in the kitchen, checking my phone, taking a breather. But I shove that small part away briskly and firmly.
You want me. You ask for me. You require me in your games and in your many, wonderful worlds. I am honoured to be asked, and needed. For I know you won’t always want me there. And when the places you take me are so magical, they make me forget I am a grown up, they make me forget about unpaid bills and unanswered emails, how, why would I ever say no?
6 thoughts on “The Many Wonderful Worlds of a 3 year-old”
So beautiful, Chantelle. Kids’ imagination never ceases to amaze me, and I think it’s so fantastic that you let that overtake you today. Bless him x 🙂
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Thank you Eleanor! Really appreciate you reading and commenting! This was actually written yesterday. Today I dropped him at pre-school, arranged for him to stay a bit longer this Friday and then cried the whole way home!! I am an emotional mess right now lol
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Lovely! I love hearing about your little lad, reminds me of times with my own lad, now aged 20 and far away. I actually feel like this with my old dog too, aged 14. Slow down, I remind myself, if she wants to sniff, let her. What’s the rush? It’s good to slow down.
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Thank you for reading and commenting, and I’m so glad you enjoyed it. I know what you mean re dogs. Mine are also getting older, and I have to remind myself to be more patient, as they will not be around forever!
Beautiful , beautiful and so precious. It’s made me cry to think of how adorable 3year olds are. My once 3 year olds are now 19. 18. 14 and 12.
Love them and watch them with all your heart.
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Ah, thank you so much! 3-year-olds really are magic. Thanks so much for reading and commenting!