The Best Life Advice I Ever Had Came From A Character I Created: Prove Them Wrong, A Mantra For Misfits

This article was previously published on Medium!

It’s probably a bit weird to take life tips from a character you created yourself, but hey, I’m a writer, and we all know how weird they are. Besides, my characters are real to me. I talk to them every day, play their scenes like movies in my head at night, and yes, I take life advice from them. Why? Because they’re the best friends I never had and they’re right.  

Let’s jump back to the beginning.

Back to me, aged twelve: painfully shy, chubby; always the odd one out, at home, at school, or even just walking down the street. I was already addicted to writing and much preferred it to real life. Every day I’d run home from school, dash up to my bedroom, put on my favourite music and start writing.

At aged twelve, I had this one story I was totally obsessed with.

You know what it’s like when you’re a kid of that age and you really fall in love with a band? Or a song? Or an actor on TV? You obsess over them, paste their posters to your bedroom wall, watch everything they’re in or buy every album they release? They’re all you can think about?

Well, that was me and this story.

And I was kind of ashamed of it. My family and friends knew I loved writing and some of them vaguely knew what sort of stuff I was working on, but the gist of it, the details and, more importantly, the characters, were all mine. I felt very protective of them, like they were my guilty secret. The extent of my obsession was embarrassing to me.

I wrote the story aged twelve and it was the longest story I’d written so far. It was hand-written at the first, scribbled onto lined notepaper and held in a ring-binder folder. I showed it to my English teacher at school and got a merit certificate in assembly. I was very, very proud of it. When I saved up and bought my electric typewriter, I painstakingly rewrote it again and printed it out.

Oh boy, did I feel like a real author then!

I rewrote that book again and again. I just couldn’t leave it alone. I’d start other stories, sometimes very similar ones, but I’d always go back to that one. Every night I’d watch my characters in my head, listen to them talk and come up with more scenes. I did a big rewrite aged sixteen and another aged nineteen and finally, when I was in my thirties, I realised time was running out and I needed to get it done.

I rewrote it again, published it and before I knew it, it had grown into a five-book series which now has a spin-off book on the way. The series is also part of a bigger universe of inter-connected books.

So, you can probably see by now how obsessed I was with these characters and this story.

I guess, as a lonely, awkward, introverted weirdo of a kid, I found a way to belong. I built my own world and filled it with friends.

Anyway, on to the life advice.

There is a scene in the first book where my main character, Danny, is feeling defeated and negative. It’s partly because of his home-life and it’s partly because he and his friends have been stereotyped as bad kids and troublemakers in their town. Because of this, when he and best friend Michael try to secure lawn-mowing work to make their home-lives easier, they are refused by everyone they ask.

Both boys have a rough time at home. Both struggle at school. Both are obsessed with the music of the time. (Early nineties.) They are the best of friends and throughout the series they go through some incredibly difficult, scary and dark times together.

Through it all, Michael is always the positive one. The optimist. Danny suffers from darker thoughts and is drawn to self-destruction.

When complaining about his life, his family, and the posh people in town who won’t let them cut their lawns, Danny is at a very low ebb. He is feeling miserable and thwarted by everything.

Michael teases him, laughs at him and tells him to stop complaining.

‘Prove them wrong,’ he says.

Three simple words but they have stuck with me ever since. Three simple words that I wish someone had said to me when I was a confused and troubled teenager. Three simple words I put into the mouth of a fictional character created in my own mind. Three words I live by every day.

Prove them wrong.

In many ways, those three words form the main theme of the books. I didn’t know that at the time, aged twelve. They were just the type of words that Michael would say to cheer Danny up. But throughout the books, Michael stays true to his advice and refuses to give up on Danny until he believes it too. If they think you’re a troublemaker, he says to Danny, prove them wrong. If your mother thinks you are stupid, prove her wrong. If this town thinks you will never amount to anything, prove the whole damn place wrong. 

Prove them wrong. I think about those words all the time. Its not about revenge or holding grudges, it’s about holding your head up high and sticking to your values, your beliefs and your dreams.

When I was a kid, people tried to talk me out of being a writer. People laughed at me, ridiculed me and didn’t believe in me. I was an extremely sensitive child and by the time I entered my twenties, I had given up on writing. My dreams had been eroded by real life and the pressure to be sensible and get a real job.

I didn’t allow myself to think much about writing, but every time I did, I felt so sad and hollow inside, like a chunk of what made me who I was had been clawed out.

It took a while, but Michael’s words, his advice, eventually won me over. He was right all along, after all. When people think badly of you, look down on you, judge you or laugh at you, the very best thing you can do is prove them wrong.

Do it anyway.

Do it for you, so that you can smile when you think of the thing that you love, the thing that defines you, the thing you would always rather be doing, the thing that makes you, you.

Do it anyway and prove them wrong.

Throughout my life that has been the perfect mantra for a misfit like me.

Thanks for reading! If you are interested in Michael’s advice and the story behind it, here is a link to the first book in the series. Please note that I am currently revamping this series and adding fresh front matter to the books with a suggested reading order for the connected books in this universe. That should not impact your enjoyment should you read them now though!

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10 Types Of Writers: A Tongue-In-Cheek Analysis of Different Types of Writers

This is an article previously published in The Honest Perspective publication on Medium.

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I’ve been writing and publishing for over ten years now, and during that time I’ve also worked with adult writers when I’ve run writing groups, workshops and projects. Added to that I’ve always found the indie writing community a particularly friendly and supportive community — so I feel like I’ve come across many different types of writers and I often pause to consider what type of writer I am. Like everything, although we all write, not all writers are the same. Far from it. Here is a little tongue-in-cheek run down of the ten different types of writer I’ve noticed over the years. Which one do you think is like you? Or can you think of any other types to add to the list?

  1. The Would-Be-If-I-Had-Time-Writer: I came across this one a lot when I first started getting my work out there. It usually comes from people who’ve never mentioned wanting to write before, but when you tell them that you do, they sigh longingly, roll their eyes in barely disguised envy and lament the fact that as much as they would love to write a book, they just don’t have the time. They are simply far too busy. Their life is without a doubt, a million times busier than yours. They can assert without any doubt that they will simply never ever have the time to write a book and they’ll look at you rather accusingly and say things like, ‘You’re so lucky you have the time for that! Wow, I wish I had the time to sit around writing all day.’
  2. The-Wanna-Be-Who-Won’t-Ever-Do-It-Writer:This one is similar to the one above but they don’t moan about not having enough time, not as much anyway, and they don’t passively-aggressively suggest you have way more time on your hands than them either… This writer wants to write; this writer has great ideas and natural talent. I came across this writer all the time when I ran my evening writing group. They were great at quick writing prompts in session but week after week, they’d come back saying they hadn’t written anything else. They wanted to, but something kept getting in the way. I assume a mix of things: lack of time, lack of support, lack of confidence for starters. Some of them get past this eventually and don’t look back but far too many never do and they never do get around to writing that thing in their head.
  3. The-Write-But-Never-Finish-Because-The First-Draft-Has-To-Be-Perfect-Writer: I know a few writers like this. They’ve got ideas, they can write, they can plot, they can commit to the process of putting pen to paper but they are too much of a perfectionist to ever get it finished. They’ll write a chapter and go back over it, again and again and years later they are still working on the same piece. Often these writers are committed planners too. They’ve more than likely either got a spreadsheet or a notice board covering in linked up post-it notes. They’ll have intricate character bios and tons of research on the go. No stone will be left unturned for this meticulous scribe. But they can’t let go of perfection and ultimately that gets in their way.
  4. The-Finish-But-Never-Publish-Because-They’re-Too-Scared-Of-Rejection-Writer: Ouch. This used to be me. I’ve written stories since I was a child and I wrote my first full length book at aged 12. I wrote obsessively all through my teens and my twenties but it wasn’t until I reached my mid-thirties that I felt brave enough to share my work. I feel for these writers, the sensitive types. They’ve probably been belittled or ridiculed by someone at some point. They compare themselves to others far too much. They’re scared to try in case they fail and have to deal with the humiliation of not ‘making it’, whatever that might mean.
  5. The-One-Idea-Only-Writer: There are two types of this kind of writer. The writer who has one amazing book idea once in their life and goes all out to write it, perfect it and publish it and then never does it again. They don’t really want to be a writer. They just had that one good idea they couldn’t let go. They probably rolled it around in their heads for years before they took the plunge and got it done. They’re happy with that, more than happy, but they never want to do it again. The other type is similar but they do want to do it again. That one idea leads them to another idea, and before they know it, they are off again. It’s still just the one idea at a time though, which is something I envy, to be honest.
  6. The-Takes-Years-And-Years-To-Write-Each-Book-Writer: This writer is similar to the perfectionist writer mentioned above. They are very meticulous, and very into the planning process. They may very well spend years researching their book before they ever start writing it. They probably go on road trips to all their locations and spend hours searching books and the internet for accurate research. There is nothing wrong with this at all — the finished product is usually worth the wait. These writers are problematic for impatient readers though as they often have to wait a very long time for the next book to land.
  7. The-Has-Millions-Of-Ideas-But-Never-Finish-Any-Writer: I think we’ve all been this writer at some point, right? Especially when we were younger? It’s the most common thing I notice in working with young writers and it seems the younger they are, the less likely they are to finish a story before a new idea hijacks them. There’s nothing wrong with this. I think its just a phase writers go through to figure out their own style and voice and eventually they find the story they’ll stick with, the one they’ll get addicted to.
  8. The-Writes-Only-Occasionally-Writer: In some ways you could narrow this list down to just two types of writer: the one who writes constantly, (see below) and the one who just writes every now and then when they feel like it. They still get the job done but they’ll have months off between projects and not write a single, solitary thing. I presume these writers find the act of writing a bit like self-imposed homework. They know they’ve got to put the work in to get a book written, but they’d like a break from it every now and then.
  9. The-Writes-Obsessively-And-Constantly-Writer: This writer has really got it bad; like a full on addiction. They don’t need to be advised to write every day because they’d write all day and night if they could. There is nothing this writer would rather do than write. They think about it all the time. They’re probably a mal-adaptive daydreamer. They’re in their own little world and always have been but don’t try to find them, they won’t like that. This writer suffers if they are kept away from their writing. They’re sad without it; they don’t feel like them. They have to write. Writing is everything. They look forward to their writing time and guard it ferociously. They have far too many ideas for books and not enough life to write them all, so they write, write, write. Publishing and marketing are on the agenda for this obsessive creature but they come second to the actually writing. They would still write even if no one else ever read it.
  10. The-Snobbish-Only-Traditional-Publishing-Counts-Writer: Often, these types started as the ‘suddenly had a good book idea’ type. They never considered writing before but they’ve got such a good idea, they’ve just got to try. They do everything right, this writer. They join a writing group, maybe even do a few courses. They follow all the advice and tips out there. They get it done. They put the work in. And for them, only a traditional publishing deal will do. Yes, yes, they’ve heard all about self-publishing but don’t mention it again, please. It’s not for them. They’re doing things properly, thanks very much. Self-publishing is for rejects only, right? They shudder at the thought.

Personally, I’m number 9 these days but I have been a few of the others in the past and I think most writers probably shift from one type to another in time.

What about you? Are you any of these types? Do you think there are more types to add to this list?

Please remember, it’s just a bit of fun and is not intended to cause any offence.

My 2023 Goals Vs The Reality

It’s a yearly tradition for me to lay out my goals for the year ahead just before New Years Eve, and then almost a year later, refer to each goal and see how well I did!

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So, here are the 8 goals I set myself for 2023 and the results.

  1. Start releasing ‘The Day The Earth Turned’ series – Achieved! As planned I released book 1: Summer in June, and book 2: Autumn in October. Book 3: Winter is all set up and ready to be released in January, hopefully followed by book 4: Spring in March or April.
  2. Finish ‘At Night They Played In The Road’ (working title, I still can’t quite decide) and send to editor – Achieved! In fact, I recently received the edits from my wonderful editor and will start working on them very soon. I hope to release it around June 2024.
  3. Publish ‘Days End’, the third book in the Fortune’s Well trilogy – Achieved! The whole trilogy is now published and available in ebook, paperback and hardback!
  4. Keep adding to my new short story and poetry collection – Achieved! I haven’t added a lot and this collection is nowhere near ready for publication but I have managed to add a few new poems to it this year.
  5. Launch Chasing Driftwood Books – Achieved! (Sort of) While we are not ready for any kind of official launch, Chasing Driftwood Books is a thing in motion. There are now eight authors in our indie collective and we are currently taking part in a Christmas calendar countdown together. The website is in progress and our mission is clear. Hopefully this time next year we will have fully launched!
  6. Keep improving my vegetable plot and self-sufficiency in general – Failed! Well, mostly. Unfortunately, my vegetable plot ended up being very neglected this year, despite my good intentions. I have realised and accepted that I just don’t have time for it. I made the decision to take down the fence and start clearing it all away at the end of the season. I felt too sad looking at it. I’m not giving up entirely and I still plan to grow things out there. I am just going to be a bit more realistic about what I have time for.
  7. Keep Up with dog training –Achieved! I had no choice, really. A year ago Ada was a sweet little puppy who was only just starting to go for walks after her jabs. It soon became very obvious that she had a deeply ingrained fear and mistrust of the outside world and just about everything in it! Her reactivity as a puppy was absolutely terrible and I was truly stunned, wondering what on earth I had done wrong. We have done constant training since then, at home, on all our walks and with our wonderful dog trainer. She has been enjoying Hoopers, Trick Training and more recently Future Stars which is teaching her the basics for agility later on. She adores training. She is desperate to learn and please you; she just finds a lot of things very worrying. She is a lot less reactive now, thankfully. She generally won’t react anymore to previous triggers, such as cars, bikes, motorbikes, scooters, children, buggies, men in hi-vis jackets, men in helmets… It was a lot! Now it is mostly just other dogs and not all of them. Just the ones that worry her!
  8. Get fitter and stronger – Failed! I haven’t gotten worse, I just wasn’t able to keep up the pilates. I’m happy with my body and my fitness but its hiking I really want to get into next year!

I think six out of eight is not too bad and the two I didn’t achieve were not total fails. All in all it has been a good year in terms of writing and family life. Look out for next week’s post where I will set out my goals for 2024!

3 Weird And Wonderful Things About Writing

I noticed something weird about writing lately and this prompted me to think about how weird and wonderful writing it is. Am I just very weird or does anyone else relate to these?

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  1. When I read something I wrote, I can’t remember writing it – I’ve always been somewhat aware of this but just recently I really noticed it and it struck me as very weird. If I pick up any of my published books and read an extract, I am always more impressed than I was at the time of writing it. It feels like someone else, someone better than me, wrote it. I can’t really remember writing those exact words, even though the plot and the characters are utterly mine and will live on in my head forever. Just last week I started typing up my Black Hare Valley story. This was the one I’d had in my head and in planning for a few years but ended up writing in longhand about a year and a half ago when a prolonged power cut meant I couldn’t carry on with stories I had on my laptop. I remember writing Black Hare Valley mainly because all the plot ideas came to me while walking. At the time petrol prices had gone through the roof and I was trying to walk more than drive. It was during this long walks to work that this book wrote itself chapter by chapter in my head. Then once it was done, I put the notebooks aside and had to forget about it. Now I’m typing it up and reading what I wrote it genuinely feels very strange; like someone else wrote it. I know the words are mine (when I can decipher the handwriting!) but I have no memory of writing them, or the thought process behind putting each sentence together. Typing it up feels like I am discovering this story for the first time even though it has been in my head for so long.
  2. When a world becomes so real, I can’t wait to get there – I’ve not had this experience for a while because I’ve been editing various books for so long, so it was a lovely but weird surprise when this started to happen with Black Hare Valley. It took a long time to build this world; starting with the drawing of a large map of the fictional town. It’s a valley town, surrounded by iron age hill forts and it has everything from a school, post office, vets, cafes and pubs, library, theatre, police station, church and so on. It was a lot of fun to create and after the map came the character bios. As I created each character I could then add where they lived to the map and this in turn sparked of plot ideas and scenes. This made writing it so much fun as every time a character moved from one place to another I could check on the map which way they would go. It really made the whole place come alive and now that I’m typing it up, I am right back there again. Every night when I go up to write, I feel excited to be returning to Black Hare Valley, this strange, beautiful and terrifying place I created. For me right now, it is entirely real.
  3. When a book writes itself – I love it when this happens but it’s not always the way it works for me when I write books. Sometimes characters will arrive, presenting drama and plot and I’ll have to figure out how to start it, where to start it and how to divide the story up into chapters. I’ll normally do a certain amount of planning before I start, but then once writing commences, the writing and planning run alongside each other, usually with me knowing at least the next few scenes and then working it out again as I go along. But sometimes, something really weird and wonderful happens. It happened recently with a book that will be ready for publication next year and it happened when I was writing Black Hare Valley for the first time. It’s like once I pick up the pen, something else takes over. The pen moves faster than my mind; I feel a bit like I’m in a trance, being controlled by something else. The next words are spilling out before I’ve even had a moment to consider them or hesitate. It’s like the story wants to be written so much it just writes itself. I feel almost disconnected at times, like I’m the reader waiting on the sidelines to enjoy the result.

There are a lot more things about writing I’d consider both weird and wonderful but these three really struck me lately. How about you? Have you experienced any of these things? Or are there other things you find weird and wonderful about writing? Feel free to let me know in the comments.