Are you ready for another character interview? This week I am talking to Terry ‘Tez’ Dacosta, who I hope won’t mind me describing him as a bit of a rascal. You can find out more about his turbulent childhood in Suckers and Scallies by Kate Rigby
1) Tell us what your positive character traits are.
I’ve got a loads of positive traits, me. I’m resilient, I bounce back when the going gets tough, you won’t catch me moping about. I’m driven and I’ll fight my corner and that of my family and those close to me. Oh yeah and I’m big enough to own up if I’m in the wrong or if someone makes a suggestion, like how I can improve my attitude or my work I’ll always take it on board.
2) What would you say your negative traits are?
Anger is my main one. I told you I’ll fight your corner but you don’t wanna get on the wrong side of me. If I’m under attack you will know it. I do have a bit of a short fuse and I’m not gonna make the usual excuses of my upbringing and all that shite. Not like our Jackie who blames our old fella for all his drink problems and his dodgy back and sits about whingeing in groups and that. OK, so I’ve sat about at Anger Management groups but that’s because it’d got out of control and I had to do something about it. I’m not proud of it. But I think our Jackie is just avoiding responsibilities and blaming others for things that have gone tits up in his life but one thing our ole fella taught us as well as standing up for ourselves was to face up to our responsibilities. Not go blaming others.
3) What are your current ambitions or dreams?
My main ambition is to be a better father to my youngest daughter than I was to my first. I let my first daughter down by being an absent father.
4) What are your fears?
I’m pretty fearless, me. But I don’t mind admitting that I hate going the dentist. I don’t like someone else being in control that way and inflicting pain on me. Another thing, I hate standing up in front of an audience and reading out my own stuff. I agreed to do that a couple of times in open mic sessions with some hard line poems I wrote but I was bricking it. It’s weird that, coz I’ve been in bands before and don’t mind all eyes on me when singing and playing front man.
5) Do you have enemies?
Do I have enemies! I’ve been Public Enemy Number One at some times in my life. Like when I lived in Jersey and it felt like the whole of St Helier wanted me and our Chas gone from the island (when he was living there an all). OK, so we did get up to a bit of trouble and my ex’s family hated us and the name Dacosta. But you get these stuck up people who hate you coz you’re a Scouser and if you get on in life they can’t wait to do you down or they think we’re all on the rob or smackheads and that. I’m not saying that I’ve not done bad stuff in my time, who hasn’t, but I’ve no need to go on the rob – I earn decent money as a graphic designer. But yeah, I’m used to having enemies, it comes with the Dacosta territory.
6) Tell us about your best friend
Our Jackie was always me bezzie. It’s that blood thing, you know. There’s less than a year between us so we were like twins growing up. He’s in Ireland these days, mind, so I don’t see a lot of him. I did have this bezzie called Kit. He was a kind of blood brother, we even did the ritual when we were kids. He was from a posh family but he was sound. We bounced ideas off each other. Good times they were.
7) What’s your biggest secret?
Well, they’re not such big secrets these days but when I was growing up, we sometimes used to mess around with other lads, me and our Jackie. We were bad lads, I suppose. We roughed Kit up a bit, we were just messing about, experimenting. In those days you didn’t want to be called a shirt lifter but these days it’s no biggie. Gay, straight and all shades in between – who cares? But I do remember the time when you had to keep stuff like that secret or risk being battered.
8) Do you have any regrets?
My biggest regret which I touched on earlier is not being there for my oldest daughter, Holly. I was too selfish back then. Her mother and me split up and I didn’t keep in touch. I didn’t really wanna be saddled with a kid. I just wanted to have a good time, playing in bands, doing mad stuff, you know. So I missed out on her growing up but I’m not gonna let the same thing happen with Ciara, even though me and her mum have split up.
9) Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
A lot more settled and not so turbulent, I hope. Seeing a lot more of my daughter and making my latest relationship work.
10) How would you like to be remembered?
As that tenacious Scouser with a chequered past who proved you all wrong and won you round! Something like that anyway.
Thank you so much Terry! It’s been great fun catching up with you. I’d been wondering what you were up to these days…